Not quite a golden rule, but a small observation I can make from experience:
The things that your wife does that may drive you crazy, your kids can do, and make those same things look cute.I hope this doesn't give too much away about my wife (who shall remain nameless)!
For instance, Maya is prone to sudden changes of mind (which I see as funny, and her making her way to independance). She is quite assertive and not afraid to speak her mind (which I see as good for communication with my daughter). She doesn't mind hard work - in fact, often she treats a suggestion to pack up the toy room as pure joy, while TJ suddenly runs off and finds something inconsequential to do until you ask him directly (and I enjoy working with someone, so it's fun to pack up with Maya sometimes, given she's so enthusiastic).
Actually, reading over that list highlights qualities in my wife, that I'm glad I see in my daughter! And yes, those qualities sometimes drive me crazy :-)
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