Why I Don't Watch Porn

Olivia and I had a conversation with a friend a while back, and we got to talking about movies. I mentioned that I'm pretty careful in choosing movies to watch (which is generally true), that I didn't watch horror movies, or films with too much swearing, or too much sex.

In that conversation, the friend was mildly surprised that a bloke would try to stay away from "racy" movies. I didn't give a reason why I thought how I did. In other conversations, with different people, I've been told that sex in movies - could this be classified as "soft porn" (not quite sure about the definition for this) - is not harmful and in fact might be helpful.

I don't like horror movies; this is my personal preference. As for bad language in movies, I appreciate sometimes it is totally necessary. Other times, it is stupid and overdone, perhaps to give the appearance of toughness or "real life". Once again, my preference is to stay away from that kind of stuff. It doesn't do anything for me.

Sex in movies - it's enough for me to know that two people had sex. I'm old enough to appreciate that this happens quite often between two consenting adults. I don't need to see it in explicit detail. Some movies handle intimate moments really well. Other movies take the opportunity to show female flesh - Olivia and I fast forward through these bits.

The prime reason for me is that I want to love Olivia, and only Olivia, more and more. I don't have room for any other females in a sexual way. The amount of time and energy I've got for my wife is eroded when I think about other women in that way - it's a lose/lose situation as far as I can tell.

This has been on my mind for a while. I wish I'd had a good answer for our friend when they asked. This answer was sitting there, I just didn't say it. And it explains why I don't watch porn (the heading for this post).

All this is my personal view, of course. I'm not in any position to preach about this kind of stuff :-)

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[Listening to: Miss Misery (Piano version) - Elliott Smith - B-Sides, Rarities & Other Songs (02:58)]

2 Responses to "Why I Don't Watch Porn"

Amanda said... Friday, March 31, 2006 1:05:00 AM

That's a great explaination of what I see as a Biblical principle, good on ya!

Thomas said... Friday, March 31, 2006 1:08:00 PM

Thanks Amanda! I just wanted to write down my thoughts so next time someone asks, I'm ready. I'm sure other men/people have different views too.

Cheers,

Thomas

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